Everyone is Chiseled. We emerge as the people we are by the sharp-edged tools of a sculpted life --the close calls, the sharp pains, the tricks and cheats that make life unfair, the highs and lows--we become formed by these inevitable forces. But that does not mean we are doomed to live at the mercy of those pressures.
If you are living a life that is unsatisfying, unhappy, unfulfilling or just feeling stuck--you have the ability to redefine your life and to reinvent it.
You can be the sculptor of your own Chiseled life!
If you've read my book, Chiseled, you saw me rise from the child of a dysfunctional immigrant family, to an unwed mother, to an idealistic journalist who gets caught up in the world of a television evangelist who is running for president, to a woman seeking her identity in the deep pockets of the Carpathian Mountains, eventually, finding my way to Oregon as a wife, a mother and a winemaker. If I can surf through these identities, so can you.
You don't have to be stuck!
Here are 10 ways to reinvent and redefine your life beginning today:
1.) Change your relationships. You are defined by your relationships to people, places and behaviors. If you love gambling, but you've lost everything to it, change your relationship to that risky behavior. If you love painting landscapes, but you work in a concrete factory on the overnight shift, change your relationship to your job. If you are surrounded by nay-sayers and negative people, change your friends. Take control of your relationships and you control the definitions of who you are.
2.) Don't be afraid to lose. Sometimes losing something makes way for gaining everything. It is impossible to fill a cup with new wine if it is overflowing with vinegar. If your possessions are holding you down, let them go. If you find yourself to clinging to old ideas, free yourself of them. Make room for the new you by shedding the old you.
3.) Lose your expectations. You don't always have to know what's going to happen next. Freeing yourself of expectations allows spontaneity and opportunity to bloom, offering pathways you could never have imagined.
4.) Clear the clutter. Have a garage sale. Letting go of "stuff" you don't need lends physical support to an emotional and psychological need for uncluttered thinking, You'll be surprised how you feel things "lighten up" as you clear the way for your new life.
5.) Start an exercise routine. Sure, it's good for your health, but it rushes blood to the brain, releases the "good feelings" of endorphins and allows for creative thinking. You will begin not only to see you life differently, but you will actually feel the change coming on.
Think on these and stay tuned for the next installment of this blog with 5 more ways to re-invent your life.